
Well, being busy with my own sister’s marriage. I took such a long break from Blogging. Saying, A loud Hellllooooooo to all my lovely readers, I missed you too.
Let’s begin ,
When someone asks you about marriage and your heart starts thumping. You get scared and marriage becomes scary to you. The issue is global, psychological,social, emotional and with all other aspects.Let’s together, dissect this fear and try to overcome it.As, I always say,”Trying is Winning”.So, let’s know more about this intense fear of marriage called ,”Gamophobia”.
Gamophobia: The Fear of Marriage and Commitment
Why the idea of “forever” can be so scary

For some people, the thought of marriage evokes feelings of excitement, romance, stability, and shared dreams. For others, it can be a source of anxiety, dread, or even downright panic. This intense fear of marriage and commitment is known as gamophobia.
While it’s sometimes dismissed as just having “cold feet” or a fear of settling down, it’s actually much more than that. It’s characterized by feelings of excessive and persistent fear of being in a relationship, making a commitment, or getting married. This fear can make it incredibly difficult to form relationships with other people—and it can even interfere with a person’s ability to function normally in their daily life.
Like other types of phobias, gamophobia is marked by fear that is out of proportion to the actual danger or threat. Such symptoms are persistent and last for six months or longer.
Recognize the Signs of Gamophobia

Some symptoms that a person might experience include immediate feelings of anxiety, fear, or panic. It is also common for people to take steps to avoid committing such as distancing themselves from others, breaking up with the person they are dating, or avoiding dating altogether.
A person who has gamophobia might also experience physical symptoms such as:
•Chest pain
•Choking sensations
•Dizziness
•Feelings of impending doom
•Hyperventilating
•Rapid heart rates of breath
•Sweating
•Trembling
People who have this condition are often capable of getting into relationships, but when things start to become serious, they often begin to exhibit signs of fear and anxiety. In other cases, some people are so afraid of commitment that they will avoid relationships altogether. Either way, it can be a recipe for loneliness and isolation.
What Causes Gamophobia?

No one know exactly why some people develop gamophobia. Like other types of phobias, several different factors typically play a role. Some research suggests that anxiety about financial obligations and other social demands associated with relationships can contribute to the fear of commitment and marriage.
One study of gamophobia among Chinese women found that the nine primary factors contributing to this fear were:
•Increased independent consciousness
•Witnessing unhappy marriages
•Anxiety about unfamiliar family relationships
•Existing family issues
•The desire to pursue personal and professional development
•Shifting perceptions of aging
•Media influences
•Parenthood concerns
•Criteria for a life partner
Negative Experiences
For some people, negative or traumatic experiences in the past can contribute to an intense fear of commitment. Children who grew up in households with parents who were unhappy, always fighting, or who experienced domestic violence may fear getting into the same situation when they are adults.
Past relationships can also contribute to the onset of gamophobia. Toxic relationships, previous divorce, and infidelity can contribute to a fear of getting too deep into a new relationship
Insecure Attachment Styles
Children raised by responsive caregivers are more likely to form secure attachment styles, while children who don’t have their needs met are more likely to develop an insecure style. People with insecure attachment styles often have a difficult time forming relationships, feel less secure in relationships, struggle with fears of being abandoned, or may fear or reject the idea of commitment.
Genetics and Family Influences
Research also suggests that genetics plays a part in the onset of phobias and other anxiety conditions.
Studies suggest that phobias among adults are approximately 30% to 40% heritable. However, research also suggests that the interaction of genetic and environmental variables often plays the largest role.
Inherited traits may make a person more prone to this fear, but attitudes learned through family influences might also play a part.
Coping With Gamophobia

Once you recognize that you have this intense fear of commitment, you can begin to take steps to address it. In addition to talking to a therapist, some strategies that may help include the following:
•Consider your history: Spend some time thinking about your relationship history. How has your fear of commitment affected your relationships in the past? Have you repeatedly walked away from relationships? Do you push people away? Or do you engage in self-sabotage when a relationship is going well?
•Think about your needs: Consider whether your fear is keeping you from what you really want. You might not necessarily want or be ready for a serious, long-term, committed relationship. But if you feel like you are missing out on what you really want, it is important to take steps to address your fear so that you can form a healthy, loving, and lasting relationship with another person.
•Keep a journal: Expressing your thoughts and fears in writing can often be a helpful way to explore what you are feeling. It can be a great way to explore patterns in your thoughts and behaviors that might be contributing to your feelings of fear.
•Try relaxation techniques: Begin practicing relaxation strategies such as deep breathing, meditation, yoga, or mindfulness. When you begin to experience feelings of fear, you can then draw on these techniques to calm your mind and body.
Gamophobia can have a serious impact on a person’s ability to form and maintain relationships. It can harm a person’s existing relationships with other people, but it can also impair their ability to reach out to others and form new relationships. Ultimately, this can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness, which can take a serious toll on a person’s mental and physical well-being.
CONCLUSION

Yes, Marriages are scary when your experiences make it so or all those news roaming on social media about failed marriages but it’s equally scary how it’s affecting your mental health and it’s not only you are scared ,both ties are equally scared. Remember,It’s just the beginning of all the important decisions which you are going to take for your future,when you decide to get married, The important question should be ,with whom you are getting married.Do you really trust them? If Yes, then no matter how scary it seems ,You can hold hands together and walk millions of miles whereas if there is lack of trust then it will end up in the worsening of your gamophobia.
Professionally , I have told you what you can do to get over it. Personally I will say, Marriages aren’t scary ,the scariest thing is the blurry future with all the other levels of anxieties together, haunting us.If someone is there to hold your hand tight and wants to face all the ups and downs,then you should hold that hand tighter for their immense courage they putting in for you because as I said already, both are equally scared. It depends,you want to face it or put your feet back.I always say , “Trying is Winning” adding on trying together is one more step closer to winning all the fears you have “alone”.Best Wishes to you and proud of you for being courageous to address ,hoping for your best future .💞
–by Cheenu Singh Sisodiya
(Psychologist)



























































































































































































































